But what caught my eye about 'Committed' was the tag line beneath the title: 'A Skeptic makes peace with Marriage'. Well, that certainly got my attention because I'm a huge skeptic and truly think marriage is overrated. And so did this author who was prepared to just live-in with her lover (Felipe) forever. But that's before the Department of Homeland Security decided that they should get married if they ever wanted to live in America together. It was either that or living abroad. So she's forced to contemplate marrying this man, and the book is a result of a fair amount of research done on the subject.
I liked the research because it was well written and confirmed my fears. Women indeed, don't get the best deal out of a marriage. Their life span shortens and if they are working, they then tend to lose 7% off their payscale. The last fact itself seemed unfair to me, considering that we don't get paid well to begin with, compared to men. So, to know that after marrying one of them, I'm likely to suffer in this way, has certainly not made marriage any more tempting in my eyes.
At the moment, I don't have her kind of border-security problems but neither do I know a Felipe. This man is 17 years older than her, divorced, with two grown-up kids (Zo and Erica who live in Australia) and she meets him in a romantic place like Bali. And he does make statements like: "A woman's place is in the kitchen. She's supposed to sit there with her feet up, enjoying a glass of wine, while watching her husband cook." And he's the one who cooks their wedding lunch, across two days of love and labouring over it. So he isn't just a glib talker but actually does know (and do) what he's talking about. Tell me, who wouldn't like this man?
He's also Brazilian, so may be I was born in the wrong country to begin with!